Hubby and I flew down to south Florida this past Thursday afternoon to spend a few days with my cousin. It was so nice to spend some time with her since we have not seen her since September 2007. Of course, those were happier times in 2007 than now since she lost her fiance about 3 months ago while scuba diving. The entire trip was a very humbling experience for me and Hubby. Her pain is so alive and very evident in everything she does and says. And her whole world has been turned upside down (mentally and physically) in such a short amount of time since his death. Her ability to think and focus is practically gone. She tries to be strong and not lash out in bitterness or vent about her frustrations- especially to us her guests in her new home.
Oh yea- did I mention she has already had to move out of their house and into a much smaller condo closer into town? Instead of staying at their home and taking her time mourning and grieving the loss of her partner, her lover, her mate, she has had to deal with his family quick-selling off their vehicles, RV, etc., their pushing her to sort through all of his clothes, selling off extra furniture, moving stuff into storage that would not fit into her condo, and actually having to box everything else and move it- ASAP. And all in less than 2 or so months after his funeral...Unbelievable! Her head is swimming and spinning- she has not stopped since the day they buried him! All you can do is feel sorry for her and her situation. We tried to visit her as her family (especially since none of her family has been there since the funeral) and support her mentally and at least physically help her unpack some boxes.
Besides the fact that we got so sunburned the first full day of our visit on the boat she rented (we rode up and down the inter-coastal waterway enjoying the sun and wind) so we had plenty of time to stay inside on Saturday and unpack some boxes.
That day (Friday) was her birthday. The marina brought back a lot of painful memories though on the boat trip since the dive shop that he went with on that fateful day was just a little ways up the river. And of course, every one there at the marina knows her and what happened... very sticky situation to say the least! Saturday afternoon she took us to some friends of hers to a seafood fest on the river. Yummy- swordfish, oysters, shrimp and conch!! We had a blast eating and hanging out on these folks' dock in the sun and wind. Saturday night we were dead tired. Hubby passed out early and we stayed up talking about stuff. I mostly listen since I absolutely cannot imagine how she feels- all I do know is that I hope I am NEVER in that situation. I cannot think of what my life would be like if Hubby died- it is such an awful subject to think about. I just hope she grieves and bounces back.
Hubby and I talked about her and her situation off and on all day yesterday after we left her. It really makes you think about your life and what could happen if a tragedy like that did occur... just think about that.
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